Making Peace With Insecurity
Perfection is the ideal but ultimately unattainable. Mastery, or, at least, the appearance of mastery, is what we wish to achieve.
If you think you have no room left for growth, I can assure you that your ego is undergoing an ill-conceived moment of pride. As society changes and grows and our conceptualization of consciousness expands, there is truly no end in sight in regards to the capabilities of the mind.
Striving for the ideal is a great source of contention but ultimately contributes to increased wellness not only for ourselves but for others as well. When we fall short or encounter someone or something that is representative of our concept of perfection, we feel anxious, unconfident, and uncertain of not just ourselves but also our present beliefs.
Insecurity is one of those feelings that we wish we could avoid but often feels unavoidable. There is a profound function and purpose to insecurity and ways we can embrace it as something that serves us.
Whenever we see something that we desire but ultimately don’t have, we can end up feeling envious. Resentment may build as a defense from an unwillingness to recognize the envy that we carry; or, we may resort to punishing thoughts in regards to ourselves (“I’m not good enough”, “I don’t deserve to be happy”, etc.). The feeling of envy is indeed an indication of the insecurity that we feel. Insecurity expands our present understanding of how vulnerable we truly are.
The journey toward security is a lifelong battle. It is something that can never actually be achieved as there is no security in the inevitability of death. To experience definitive security is to live forever, which, as far I know, continues to be impossible.
We will always be vulnerable regardless of how much we increase our sense of security because of the imminence of death; or, the end of experience will find a way to reemerge. To strive toward security is universal; therefore, to feel insecure is also universal.
Often, when we are confronted with our insecurities, we forget that our thoughts are not solely our own—recognizing insecurity as something that everyone experiences can help ease our anxiety. You are not alone in this uncertainty.
Even the most confident appearing individual is prone to insecurity. Most likely, the reason that they appear so confident is that they have allowed their insecurity to teach them how to be more confident, or perhaps they have learned to build a persona that provides the illusion of confidence.
Going forth and exhibiting confidence can assist in the attainment of increased security despite, perhaps, experiencing lingering underlying doubt.
Each of us has our journey in terms of transforming discomfort into comfort. If we allow it to teach us, insecurity can contribute to a better and more robust sense of self.
Where are my vulnerabilities? What can I do to diminish or eradicate them? How do my insecurities help me in connecting to myself or others on a deeper level? These are all questions we should be asking ourselves for discovery and psychological evolution.
Make peace with what you do not know. Allow the discomfort to educate you regarding your needs and accept that there are valid reasons that you have those needs in the first place.
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